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I am burdened with so many emotions right now.  Honestly, I’m excited because after months (maybe even a year) of not doing a post like this – I’m proud to say that Sunday Letters is up and running at this moment.  I’m excited because it seems like it’s been ages since I’ve been able to write like this.  But, on the other hand, I’m filled with dread and an overwhelming sense of anxiety building up inside.  My Sunday Letters posts are a way for me to get a bit personal here and a way for me to put myself out there for others to read.  I miss it, but use it as a way to hold me accountable of things I set forth for myself.  It’s been a long while since I’ve done a post like this – so I’m going to get real for a moment and get you all caught up.

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Ugh… where do I begin?  It’s already March and I have been sick so many times over the last few months that I can’t even count or begin to.  I rang in the new year with the flu and I feel like it’s just all piling up on me like the plague.  No matter what I do to get my health back in check, I find myself dwindling into the despair of sick and tired… literally.  I have also been struggling with my weight.  What the frick is up with my weight?  No matter what I do health wise, it seems like I’m putting on weight versus losing no matter the countless hours and sweat I put into trying to drop the pounds.  My skin has been freaking the frick out… like literally freaking out and my once good skin is now proving that it has an alter ego that is mean and evil.  My skin is freaking out so bad it is worst now than it had been when I was in my teens.  How is that even possible?  How could this be?

“Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it…” – R.H. Sin

I think the health issues I’ve been having over the last year have been something that has literally been keeping my faith and my energy down.  Over the last 6 months I’ve had every possible friend contact me and tell me “I have this new product line or product for you to try and it will make your health better, help you lose weight.”  Trust when I say I have heard it all.  What I really want to tell these friends is that “I’m not your get rich quick guinea pig that you can dump your new product on to make money off of.”  I know, I might be a little harsh here, but it’s true.  Instead of telling me… “I’m sorry that you are going through this, how can I help?”  I get “hey, try this product and start using it faithfully and it will help you get better quick.”  Who the frick do these people think they are talking to?  I’m just over it.

Over the last 8 months, I have had more tests done to me than people have had in their lifetime.  And, I might add – these are not easy on my body.  Taking blood is like seeing a vampire for a neck bite.  I don’t have easy veins and they are what phlebotomist call “disappearing veins” because they move or you think they are there but it’s all an illusion.  Just to get a blood test done, I get poked and prodded over 5 times and then the blood suckers don’t even get enough blood to complete their testing.  I had to have a CT Scan and Endoscopy done within the last 8 months as well and the CT scan required the technician to send me to an ultrasound tech to find my veins so he could start my IV, a procedure that should have taken 15 minutes took 2 hours.  My Endoscopy – again, finding my vein to start my IV posed a challenge for the nurses, so after poking my arm over 8 times, they finally found a vein in my hand which wound up collapsing eventually, resulting in a huge bruise and a vein I can probably no longer use.  Then, so have anesthesia rendered to put me to sleep so that I wouldn’t feel the scope down my throat, only for the medicine to not put me to sleep and I be up the entire time.  These are just a small amount of issues I have with my body each day and it’s frustrating.

I have been waking up each day with a lost of drive lately.  Those that know me, know that that is unusual for me.  It’s outside of the norm of what many have come to expect from me and my personality.  I’m just so overrun with emotions that it’s frustrating and I’m frustrated.

The other day I was chatting with a friend when she basically told me… to my face, “You just need to lose the weight and everything in your health and life will be better.”  What the fuck?  Don’t you think I have already tried or am trying to do that?  Don’t you think that I know all too well that my weight is probably an issue?   I try and stay with a program day in and day out and it hasn’t worked!  So then, I ask you – why isn’t it working if you say that that is my end all, fix all?  Why?

I know I have ranted and vented in this post more than what anyone has ever seen here, but just know you may be seeing more of this.  I’m exhausted and more so exhausted of trying to explain myself to people who are supposed to support me, not tear me down.  My goal is to become the fire that is causing havoc in my life right now and not run and fear it.  So, I hope to update you all on my journey and let you know how things are going.  I have a series of different appointments with doctors coming up and I’ll be writing about those here as well… so stay tuned.

Anyway – on to Sunday letters…

Dear Kevin, my husband – You have been an unwavering support system for me and I didn’t expect anything otherwise.  I’m so thankful you are my rock for me to vent to and my shoulder to cry on and there is a reason why you are my best friend.  I don’t know how I could have gotten through these last several months without you.  Thank you for being there for me.

Dear God – Please, please give me the strength to be able to get passed this time in my life.  Whatever the issue with my body that seems like it’s failing me, please heal my body of its ailments and help to give me peace.  Please give me the strength to walk away from those that claim to be my friends but don’t realize they are putting me down while they are thinking that they are lifting me up.  And, please give me the courage to get my health back on track and my mind back to being and thinking positively.

Dear Friends (those that I talked about in this post) whether you are family or friends, this letter is for you.  I don’t despise you.  I don’t hate or and I’m certainly not mad at you, but more so disappointment in your actions.  You can be mad that I chose this route to discuss it, but I didn’t mention any names.  I can only hope and pray that God opens your eyes to how much you have hurt me.  I’m not hopeless or someone who is without hope for the future, I’m simply in a little bit of a rut at the moment.  Instead of pushing me down and making me feel more like crap and putting me deeper in depression, how’s about you offer positive reinforcement to help.  I don’t hate you, but can only hope that you can be a more positive influence instead of constantly tearing me down.

Signed,

Signature Honey

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Whew… another week has begun and I feel like I didn’t quite finish up the tasks from last week to warrant starting a new one.  Let’s face it, who ever completes their daunting daily tasks deserves an award, because my list is ever growing and it seems like there is less and less time in a day to accomplish it all.  Nonetheless, I digress and try to move forward to the best of my ability.

“Significance is very different from success.  Significance means that you are adding value to others lives.  Once you taste significance, you won’t care about success anymore.” – John Maxwell

As I sit here at my desk working endlessly to get all of my ducks in a row for the next few days, I find myself wondering…  “Am I adding value to the lives of those that read this blog?”  Hmmm… don’t answer that… haha!  No, but kidding aside, I really wanted to take this site back to its roots and I find myself consistently asking the same question of myself each day.  Do I bring value to the table?  The quick answer would be, yes… right?  The long answer would be… I may not bring value to all but I certainly offer some form of value to a few, which in all honesty – is better than none at all.  Right?

So, what is it that you bring to the table that adds value to those around you?  Do you look at your worth by the amount of success you accomplish or do you look at your worth by how you help those around you?  In this day and age, let’s face it – not many people make the time to help others anymore.  When they do, it’s half assed and rushed causing you to really question their motivations as to why they lent that hand in the first place.  But should it really matter how much or how little someone has helped versus the fact that they have helped at all?  Let’s think about this for a second shall we?  If someone lends a helping hand for you (say, you have fallen and need some assistance standing up), do you feel grateful when they lean over and help you up and then ask you if you need anymore assistance or if you’re okay.  How about if they simply just helped you stand without a word and went on their merry way?  Which would you prefer?  Or are you like me and think that either way – the person took the time out of their day to help you regardless of small talk and that meant a lot to begin with?  I find that sometimes no words is not necessarily a bad thing.  In this time when so many are at fault with one another and there is so much bigotry and ignorance in the World, if a person took 30 seconds out of their day to help you in silence versus 5 minutes and took the time to have a conversation, we should be thankful that either person took the time regardless.  Those few seconds mean a lot to anyone who barely has enough time in the day to accomplish their own tasks at hand – don’t you think?

Lately I think my goal in life is to be significant.  It’s not about being successful (yes, we all strive for that in some way or another), but being significant means that I’m adding much more than just success to the table.  When you take the time to offer value and add value to those around you – you truly are significant.  Like John Maxwell said “Once you taste significance, you won’t care about success anymore.”  Well John, I agree – but I think that to be significant in the world, adding value to others’ lives around you is a success too.

Wishing you all a wonderful Monday.  May today and this week be filled with a plethora of inspiration to fill your bucket full.

Signature Honey

I have always started a new year with positive thoughts and goals and this year is definitely no different.  I shared with all of you my 2017 Goals last week and wanted to take the time to really elaborate a bit on a personal level while sharing with you my thoughts and direction for Honeygirl’s World.  You know, when I started this blog 10 years ago, I started it as my creative outlet, sharing a piece of me while documenting my life as a busy mom maneuvering my way through the Corporate America world and now, 10 years later, I have made so many changes to my personal and professional life, that the outlook of this site has changed gears over the years as well.

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Here’s the deal – Honeygirl’s World is going back to what I love… documenting my life’s journey.  I love reviewing products whether purchased with my own hard-earned money from my own pocket or sent from PR companies for consideration, but I miss what this site used to be.  Does that mean that I’ll be providing a lot less reviews in the future?  Well, I’m not sure… but my goal is to develop the range of posts you see here and incorporate more of what this site originally was aimed towards – My Life!  Whether you are a company reading this post to decide if I am the right fit for your product or brand or someone who stumbled upon my site looking for a mother’s or wife’s perspective… let me break it down for you and share with you what you can expect here.

Let’s talk product reviews… I love love doing them.  Over the last 10 years I have been given the opportunity to try a plethora of products I probably wouldn’t have tried to begin with.  My family – husband, sons and fur baby – have also been given great opportunity to try products for themselves.  I don’t think I’ll be eliminating those types of posts here, but I do have a strong opinion on those types of write-ups and want to be honest here so you know what to expect.  Whether the post is sponsored or the products are sent for consideration know that my view point will never change here.  I am 100% unbiased and truthful in my thoughts for any product you read about here… if I don’t like it, you’ll know about that, if I do – well, you’ll know about that too.  No sponsored post will be biased in anyway – that has been my thought process for this site since the beginning and it will continue to be.  If I do not like a product and cannot say so in my post – I will not take on the task of writing about it.  Yes, my blog pays my bills or forks out spending money for me… but that will NEVER change my opinion and I will never obscure my integrity, my word and reputation for a product that I feel is not up to my personal standard.  This can be a downfall in who I may work with, but that will never change who I am.  I grew up being taught that your word is golden in life and I teach my children the same thing so I would never go against that for a quick monetary pay.  Know that when you read a review here, it is truly my own word and that will not change.  Not all products will receive a 100% pass from me and some may work for me while not for others.

I just turned 37 a few days ago and I’m reminded with each waking moment that blogging and YouTube are so much more different than when I started posting videos and write-ups 10 years ago.  When I started YouTube, many of us filmed in a closet or at our desks, using a webcam or rickety point and shoot camera and just going with the flow.  You know, while I do have my favorites that I still watch – I find myself back to basics, watching and enjoying YouTubers that offer simplistic videos.  Call me cheesy, but I find myself watching YouTubers that provide videos like I do… chit chat and talk story type diaries that are laid back and personable.  YouTube has turned into a cookie cutter type of platform and I’ve lost interest in so many I’ve watched over the years.  Same with blogging…  at 37 years old I find that I do not fit in the stereotypical blogger, that 18 – 25 year old range.  Hey, nothing wrong with that, right; but because of this, I find that the beauty industry I have loved for so long is no longer where I want to be and I want out.  Don’t get me wrong… I LOVE beauty, makeup, nails, skin care… but I’m not going to sacrifice my own identity to please those around me.  I realized in 2016 that I miss the type of videos and posts I used to do when I was in my late 20s and I want to go back to that place again.

Ugh… I’m so tired of the stigma of “Oh – she does YouTube videos and does it for free shit” or “Oh, she’s a blogger so she can get free stuff.”  Um, no and no!  I never started my blog or YouTube channel that way – but it’s been so nice that these companies have been so gracious to share their products with me and my family.  It’s wonderful to be able to be paid for something I enjoy doing too.  But rest assured, all of that – the free stuff and money, it has NEVER changed me… so you can continue to expect the same type of content whether organic or evergreen or whatever term you would like to use, all while I share a little piece of me.  Honeygirl’s World is my indeed – my World, wrapped up into all the pieces that I am proud of.

What can you expect here?  Well – more lifestyle posts, of course.  Back in the day I used to write a series on my site called:  Dear Diary or Sunday Letters, all of which were popular and fun and documented my life in a different aspect than what you see online.  Documentation of my weight loss and “back to healthy” journey which will allow me to hold myself accountable for success.  I want to share my Thirsty Thursday episodes and elaborate more on the subjects here on the blog then I do on YouTube and plan to have more Q&A and FAQ posts for those who are always asking me questions.  Since I have an “Ask Honey” segment on my channel, I would like to definitely incorporate that here as well and my overall goal is to post more on my outfits (I’m not your typical fashion lover) and of course share my recipes, food choices and ideas here.  There is so much more I have to list… but this post would be much longer than it should be.

Changing up my role in the blogging and YouTube community is never a bad thing.  I think that while I’m making changes in my presence in the online world, I’m actually enhancing who I really am and what I’m about.  Hey, let’s be real here for a second… does that mean I will no longer talk about Beauty here or on my channel??? Um, have you been listening?  Of course I am, but it will not define what Honeygirl’s World is all about.  If you are looking for product reviews, yes – you shall still see them here and find them here, but you will certainly see much more of who I truly am moving forward.  Those that have followed my blogging and YouTube journey since the beginning – you will see a lot more of the “old Honey” that you were probably accustomed to.  I’ll still continue to put the same amount of time and effort into any of my posts and I’ll still offer you the variety of content you have been seeing over the years – but now, it will include so much more.  I plan to up my game with more lifestyle posts and share a little peek into my world.  So – if you’re willing to stick around for this ride, then hang on tight and have some fun with me.

Wishing you all a wonderful 2017 and years beyond.  It’s going to be a great year and I’m looking forward to sharing it with all of you!

Signature Honey

Check out my 2017 Goals if you haven’t already read it.

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Yay, I’m finally ALIVE!  No, seriously – I’ve been in bed and seriously nursing the flu and then a cold for the last week, ringing in the new year in bed.  I finally feel like I can get it together and get on the grind to start 2017.  Hey, I’m only 7 or 8 days late – right? lol.  Since I’m finally moving around and starting the year, I figured I would share my 2017 goals.  These goals consist of those that are personal, blogging or anything in between.  What I love about sharing them here on the blog, is that it kind of holds me accountable and that way I have no excuse but to keep on top of them.  Let’s get started shall we?

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1.)  Lose Weight.  This may seem like a given for anyone, especially those like me in my particular circumstance.  But, the fact is – I’m slowly getting my health back in order and plan to not only continue eating healthier, but also really work on improving my self image and health overall – both physically and mentally.

Sub-goals: Make sure that I a) include more vegetables in my daily meal intake.  b) try to eliminate the carbs and starches that plague me badly – i.e. reduce my rice, noodles and bread intake. c) reduce meal portion sizes while making sure I am eating through the day (my biggest issue is that I don’t have time to eat, so I must make time to eat).  And, d) continue to increase my exercise daily.

2.)  Be smart with purchases.  Only buy new products when I’m running low or when I’ve actually run out of them.  As a makeup addict, I often times find myself ooing and ahhing over the newest thing.  In 2016, I did really well with purchases and didn’t purchase everything and anything that was newly released.  This year, in 2017, I want to incorporate the same but really stick to it.  After destashing  and donating a lot of cosmetic items for 2016, I realized that I need to truly use what I already have.  Money hard earned should be money well spent and buying makeup items only to have them sit since I only have one face, well – I have better things to do with my finances.  I want to continue minimal self spending and splurging and continue to buy less – no matter what it may be… makeup, skin care, planners, pens, whatever.

3.)  Get organized.  This may seem like an easy task for someone like me who likes structure, but the fact of the matter is… I could do so much better.  My desk – while I can find whatever it is I’m looking for, is a mess.  While my time scheduling is organized and structured, my paperwork is a mess and I would love to bring more organization to my household overall.  This may seem like an easy task for one person, but I balance the organization for a whole household of 5 members and I would love to be able to really kick it in gear and get it together.

Sub-goals:  a) I would like to organize the paperwork on my desk and in my files.  Trying to reduce paper clutter and keep it at a minimum, keeping only the papers that are needed.  I would like to come up with a proper filing system so that I have an easier time with paperwork.  b)  I really need to organize our household better.  Each month we take donations and try to keep clutter at a minimum, but I think there is so much more I could do.  And, c) I need to organize my time better.  This is important since I work from  home.  I need to be able to organize my work and home schedule to try and make sure I have enough time in the day to accomplish all the things I need to do.

4.)  Wear my hair down more.  This may seem like something that is already being done in my life… but the fact of the matter is, I still consistently wear my hair up in a bun or pulled back.  I need to embrace my natural curls and my hair and really need to find the time and effort to get it under control so that I can wash and wear it easily – without constantly pulling it up.  Since I wear my hair up so often, I am quite accustomed to not having anything in my face and that in it’s own is a difficult thing to get used to.  My goal is to commit to wearing my hair down at least 2x a week so I can get used to it without sacrificing the “on-the-go” lifestyle I live.

5.)  Wear more dresses or dress up more.  Come on now, I have really never been a dress wearing girl.  I’m a tomboy and will wear a pair of jeans or shorts with a t-shirt as much as possible if allowed.  I would like to dress up a little more or wear more dresses so that I’m not so casual.  There’s nothing wrong with dressing casually – it’s just that I do it so much, I forget what it is like to dress up sometimes.  By putting on a dress or just adding a little more flair to my outfits, I think it would make a world of a difference.

6.)  Eliminate the negativity and keep positive, striving for joy.  This particular goal may seem like an easy one, but trust me when I say it has been anything but easy the last few years.  I would like to do everything in my power to eliminate the negativity and strive for joy.  By keeping the negative nancys out of my personal bubble and keeping positive aspirations, goals and overall happiness in my life – I think I can accomplish this goal.  Spreading joy and happiness where I go while not feeding into others negative thoughts will make a huge difference in my life.

7.)  Back to Lifestyle posts.  Honeygirl’s World is technically a lifestyle blog and boy do I miss it.  I feel like I’ve focused so much on product reviews or beauty and skin care over the last year, that I have lost sight of where my passion lies.  I love sharing new products or reviews with all of you – but I also want to really incorporate more of my life on the blog.  That is how I started blogging to begin with – to document my life’s story.  So, my goal this year is to incorporate at least one lifestyle post a week.  Whether it be to share my weight loss and health journey each week, post Sunday letters or just sum up life with my family each week – it’s my goal to go back to it and keep at it.  Honeygirl’s World is my life, my world and I need to get back to my roots and remember where I started and how I got here.

Of course, a new year comes with new goals and I’m sure I’ll have a plethora more to add to this list as the year progresses. While many of these goals may seem a bit simplistic – it may not be that case for many because it’s all a matter of changing the way one thinks and how they proceed to do things.  Since Honeygirl’s World is a lifestyle site, I plan to come back in the coming months and share how I’m accomplishing these goals and if I have had an positive change.

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I wish all of you reading this a wonderful New Year.  Whether you are making goals for yourself to accomplish or just plan on living life to its fullest, or both – may your year be filled with joy and happiness.

Signature Honey


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My husband and I have been married for over 15 years and together for almost 20.  I knew that when we started dating, there was a possibility that he would be in some form of Law Enforcement because – well, it’s a legacy honestly.  His Dad, brother, sister, uncles and Great Grandfather are well known in the industry of law enforcement, so I had expected that he would follow in their footsteps one day and that would be his calling.  A few years ago he made the commitment to become a Corrections Officer, or a CO which is a common term used in the field.  I knew what we were getting into as a family, but little did I know how it would affect us and our lifestyle moving forward.

It’s been almost 3 years since my husband was sworn in to be a Corrections Officer and since this is a Lifestyle site, I figured I would turn this particular post into a series, like my “Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom”.  After a few years, I’ve decided that this would be a great way for me to vent, share my ramblings and my support for this man I love.  So – stay tuned for more of these types of posts in the future. Now, let’s get into what it’s like to be a Corrections Officer’s Wife.

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What it is like to be a CO’s Spouse… the shortened version!

Let’s start with the statistics, shall we?  Corrections Officers have a 39 percent higher suicide rate than any other occupation, with a life expectancy of only 58 years.   Many don’t realize that that is 20 years less than the average American.  With mental illnesses like PTSD, anxiety and depression being a huge issue for CO’s in the industry and high divorce rates increasing consistently over the years.  As a couple, my husband and I knew the statistics, but we also know how strong our relationship is, though – I’ll be honest, this job has had its challenges on our strength over the years.

As if those statistics were the only thing we had to look forward to, there is the actual job itself.  Each day my husband walks through the gates of the facility he works in and each day I think about the dangers he faces behind the doors.  As I watch him leave the house, I’m consistently reminded of what lurks in the buildings he works in and I have to entrust his co-workers, his comrades to have his back when I struggle to give up that right to anyone already.  Disease, murderers, criminals – all of which he has to deal with on a daily basis, I have to entrust that he will have the right judgement calls to protect himself and believe that God will bring him home safely to me.

I understand that many in the field of law enforcement may have similar and high demands of what my husband has to deal with daily, but I also see that due to misconstrued issues, assumptions and past issues lend for Corrections Officers to have a bad reputation.  The fact of the matter is, most Corrections Officers do the job of a Police Officer day in and day out with little to no protection or weapon outside of their own bodies, their fists – to protect themselves.  They are the EMT (Emergency Medical Response / Paramedic) on scene, the Fireman to put out fires and the Police Officer with little to no recognition and much less resources than many of those uniformed enforcers have.  They are unrecognized in their job and what they do – day in and day out and many people scoff at what they are because they are ill informed of their daily job or duties.  My husband took an oath to serve a community and protect a population (inmates) and it can often be held against him or his fellow CO’s.  Or, held against me, because I am married to a CO.  The fact of the matter is – Police Officers spend a small portion of time with these criminals, inmates, those that are doing time… only to drop them off at the Correctional Facility where my husband spends his entire day with them until they are released, if they are released.  Again, during this time only protecting himself with his own fists, no weapon to protect himself other than his eyes and his own body.

“He’s a Police Officer, EMT, Fireman all in one!”

I’ve often been asked why my husband doesn’t make appearances as often as he used to on my channel and blog and frankly, it has a lot to do with the safety of our family.  It may seem like it is not a big deal or small sacrifices for great reward but the fact of the matter is – my husband is in a field most people know little about and those that think they know, are assuming or using strong allegation, rumor and no knowledge to judge appropriately.  As a family, a job like this really pulls at the heart strings and waiting as my husband comes home each night safely is one of the hardest things I could have ever experienced as a wife.

We are a strong family that is close and we always have each others back, but something like this can definitely test your strength, your beliefs and your love.  I’ve had sleepless nights, more so now after there have been issues in the modules where my husband has already been injured and I’m sure that this job will continue to weigh on my heart over the years.  I’ve had to explain to our children why their dad could not come home in time to watch a performance, because there are times when there is a lock-down or he is required to work overtime.  I’ve had to fight back tears when my husband comes home to tell me what he had to deal with at work.  I am the protector of my household and children while my husband is away – bearing arms to protect us from dangers and staying strong when I know I just want to fall apart.  But, as a proud wife of a Corrections Officer, I stand tall and thank God for his blessings and for protection over my husband as he continues in his career.  It’s not an easy task, but hey, such is life – right?

If you are a CO’s wife, know that you are not alone.  And while times can get tough and everything and anything will test your strength, there are women like us that are here for support.  Like I mentioned before, I hope to have more of these in the future, so keep an eye out for that.  Even if it’s just something to give you a little guidance or a few words to remind you that you’re not alone, I want to be able to share this with you.

Hold on, have Faith! You are not alone! – Honey

 

The last few weeks have had me talking about relationship advice on my Thirsty Thursday episode I do each week but I have been saving some motherhood topics for today.  As many know who follow my blog or YouTube channel, I am a Stay at Home / Work from Home mom and honestly, I’m proud of it.  I wish each mother could experience staying at home with their children and spending the time with them watching their child or children grow.  But, being a stay at home mom comes with a certain personna, or stigma I shall say, that can sometimes hit a few nerves.  Today we are going to do a “Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom” segment – something I used to do a lot on my channel and blog in the past and we are going to touch base on the following subjects.  These questions were emailed to me for advice and topic consideration…

” Do you think Sta at Home Moms are lazy?  What do you think about what is said about Stay at Home Moms, calling them lazy or that they have an easy life and don’t do anything.”

” Do you feel you push your kids too hard to be successful?  Do you think some parents can push their kids too hard to be great?”

Be sure to watch the video embedded above or click here to watch the episode directly on YouTube. Remember that this is just a chill and relaxed conversation and I’m simply stating my opinion as a person and not bashing on anyone else’s opinion on the subject.

Thanks so much for joining me on this episode of Thirsty Thursday.  Don’t forget – if you are interested in submitting questions or topics for future episodes, you can email them to thehoneygirlk@gmail.com.  As a reminder, I am not a professional at all and do not get paid for my advice.  All opinions are my own – my honest thoughts on the subject and I am in no way judging anyone for the choices they make or their own opinions, these are just mine.

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I have always loved dressing up and look forward to events so I was very excited to be invited to attend the Royal Order of King Kamehameha 150th Year Jubilee Ball.  This beautiful event is held every so many years but this year, being the 150th Anniversary made for a huge event.  The event took place at the beautiful Grand Wailea Resort in the Haleakala Ballroom and Garden on Saturday, April 9, 2016.  My husband and I were quite excited and while it was last minute that we were invited to go, we were able to pull together our attire in time for the event.

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The color for the event this year was red, so I chose to go with a red dress.  I always love the way I look in red so it was an easy choice.  Finding a dress for my plus sized self was not an easy task however, but I’m glad I found a beautiful dress last minute and it fit perfectly.  The affair was a formal event which meant suit and tie for gentlemen and gown for ladies were required. Everyone was dressed up fancy and beautiful.

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There was dinner and entertainment.  For dinner we were served a sit down 5 course dinner which consisted of a fusion of Hawaiian and local cuisine.  My husband and I really enjoyed the food and entertainment was wonderful as well.

 

Above is a video with my snapchat timeline from that evening. I was so busy having a grand time and enjoying the night that I didn’t have a chance to vlog or to take a lot of photos, but I tried to snap as much as possible.  I did take photos of each course we enjoyed for dinner.  Our 5 courses included the following:

Course 1 – Amuse Bouche, Ahi Poisson Cru with fresh Cilantro, Coconut Milk and Moloka’i Pa’akai.
Course 2 – Pohole Salad with housemade pipikaula, maui onion, dried shrimp, pea shoots and haiku tomato with Rolls and Lilikoi (passion fruit) butter
Course 3 – Roast Pork wrapped and baked in Ti- Leaf, served over ‘Uala (sweet potato), Lu’au, Inamona and Chicharron. Served with white rice family style
Course 4 – Lilikoi Haupia Brown Butter Cake with Haupia, Kula Strawberries and Chantilly
Course 5 – Friandise, Chocolate Truffles and Tea or Coffee

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Of course, since we were in an ambient setting and the lighting was not the greatest, photos were not as clear as I would have liked… but I wanted to share this wonderful evening with all of you.  I had a great time and it was such a special event.  There are few events like this here on Maui so it was so nice to be able to attend.

I literally felt like I was going to prom.  Everyone was dressed up and looked wonderful.  It’s interesting because it literally was the adult version of a prom, but with a full service bar and adult conversations.  I love that as we get older, the uncomfortable feeling we get around our peers tends to dwindle – which is quite different from how it was as we were teens.  The event was beautiful, food a wonderful delight and I enjoyed every minute of it.  It was a wonderful way to finish our week of celebrations for my husband and I for our wedding anniversary.  15 years married and a wonderful ball – I say it was a grand time.

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Disclaimer:  It goes to say that none of this was sponsored and everything was paid out of pocket.

Happy Thirsty Thursday Friends!

Today on this week’s episode we are going to chit chat about jealously.  I mentioned in a previous video that I can be a really jealous person naturally and today I touch base a little more on the subject and give you a little talk about how to deal with it.  Grab a drink and enjoy! Today – we are going to talk about how to deal with being a jealous person.

Who am I?

Well, it’s obvious that I am a blogger (just call me an editor – lol), Photographer, an art lover and self proclaimed gourmet food aficionado (otherwise known as major foodie) as well as a creative brain waiting to jump out and show the world what I can do.  But, most importantly – I am a Wife and Mother.

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“Cut not the wings of your dreams, for they are the heartbeat and the freedom of your soul.” – Flavia

I have a husband named Kevin who has been and continues to be my rock, my strength and my biggest supporter.  If you know anything about me, then you know that for years, I struggled to discover myself and who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do.  Through it all, our love has stood the test of time and through our ups and downs – through sleepless nights and times when we had no money, we persevered and looked past it all.  We continue to love one another, commit our hearts to each other and look forward to a lifetime of memories.

A year or so ago I was approached by a colleague that asked me a question that I never thought I would ever have to answer.  But, in answering her question I realized that our world is not what we consistently hope it to be.  While I constantly live in my own fairy tale, many are just longing for love.  Today I share with you her question and my response.

Friend:  “How can you be so in love with someone, after all these years… and talk about him as if you have a new found relationship – like teenagers?  You guys act like you are newly in love.”

My answer: “How can you not? When you give your love to someone, during your wedding vows or other – don’t you commit to them with all your heart and soul? Shouldn’t love be fun and interesting? Shouldn’t you live each day for one another – be there for each other and more importantly, love like you don’t have tomorrow. It’s different when you fall in love with someone and marry them. They are your best friend, your soul mate. Your love for them can only grow more and more as time passes.”

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It’s corny – I know… but it’s true! This is who I am and what I feel inside.  There are times when I get so busy and wrapped up into being a wife and mother, that I often don’t pay attention to how strong my love is.  Sometimes, I find myself in extreme auto-pilot, living through each day as if I were a part of a robotic colony completing each task on automatic mode.  But, while those times can come more often than not, I know that I can always stop and be so thankful for where I am in life and how far it has taken me.

I also mentioned being a mother.  I have three beautiful boys and while they are all their own individual selves with their own personalities, they helped to mold me into the mother I am today.  Through many times of the utmost insanity, my boys have helped me to keep it all together.  I’m not gonna lie, being a mother is already a challenge and topping it off with three VERY active boys is icing on the cake.  My eldest (Kevin Ka’eo) is now 12 years old and is already going through that stage of being “too grown up” for his parents – yikes.  And, the twins (Luke & Isaiah) are now 6 years old with an agenda each all their own.  All of them keep me absolutely on my toes… between school functions, sports and just an overall lack of sleep – but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.  These boys are my love bugs, they have captured my heart forever.

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You see, in life – we meet new people, gain new relationships and take on many challenges. I am who I am today because of those who have inspired me to be more than I could ever imagine. I would never change any of it – Never, ever!  I have a strength that many people cease to exude.  It’s not that they don’t have it, but merely because they don’t realize they do.

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The strength behind my soul is my family.  These four people in my life that not only provide the biggest support that I could ask for as a person, but the foundation of which my life succeeds.  I’m stronger because of them and for them and my soul, my heart is whole because of the love I have for them.  They say that love is what makes or breaks a person – it is what develops a person into who they become and what their future will hold.  If that’s the case, I think my future is bright and my soul is strong because I live a love that most people only dream of.

Wishing you all a wonderful day! Thanks for letting me pour out my heart and soul for all of you! xo

“A book is only as strong as its cover that holds and binds its pages.”  – Honey

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Have you ever had those days when you wake up and feel like an epiphany has completely taken over your body?  The feeling overwhelms you and leaves you stunned and in awe.  I swear, it seems like over the last month I have been going through this very thing several times a week.  It delights me that I can go to bed in the evening and wake up the next morning with my head filled with thoughts that I simply can’t wait to get onto paper.  This has been my routine lately and my mind is telling me to pay attention to the signs as they are what my heart is telling me my soul wants.  In 2015, everything I did and everything I strived for had to do with self discovery, finding out who I am and what I want out of life.  It was about growth, not only for myself but my family and about strength because we had to really rely on one another to ensure success or simply to just get by.  This year, I want to take everything I learned from 2015 and incorporate it into my personal “Planner” so to say, that will enable success and ultimately, help me to achieve my life goals.  Let’s face it, living life is an accomplishment already and last year was a challenge all its own.

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So, what’s in store and what’s new for Honey?  Well, first of all I really feel like over the years I lost my identity and who I truly am and last year after really accomplishing so much more than I thought I ever could personally, I realized that the little changes I made to my routine and myself created a monster.  Not the scary, freaky and ugly kind, but the kind that really wasn’t satisfied with everything or anything.  I should be tapping myself on the back, applauding my accomplishments and realizing that not only am a I strong, confident and beautiful woman but that I attained and superseded a plethora of goals I had and I didn’t even realize it.

“I would like to be known as an intelligent woman, a courageous woman, a loving woman, a woman who teaches by being.” – Maya Angelou

This year 2016 my mind has been made up.  My goal is to engage in my thoughts and bring them all to life.  Like an artist takes to his canvas or a writer to paper, my plan is to really embrace who I am as a person and use that as my strengths, not my weaknesses.  One of the things I plan to do is start with making changes to my blog – I know, I know, yet again.  I realized a lot about myself last year and that is that I lost my sense of personal identity on my site.  I found that I was producing content that lost my personal sense of style.  I love doing product reviews and I really truly enjoy trying new products and new things – but I lost the embodiment of what Honeygirl’s World really is… My World, My Life – the things I love.  My site turned into a plethora of beauty (which isn’t a bad thing), but while my reviews showcased my personality, I felt that I still lost a lot of who I really am.  This year I plan to incorporate more of me into the site and retro back to what it used to be when I first starting blogging.  My site will not only be for reviewing my favorite products, but sharing bits and pieces of who I am and what I love.  I kind of feel like all of that got lost over the years and I plan to bring it all back.  I started Honeygirl’s World as a way to document my life and that is where I plan to take it once again.

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So what can you expect from me?  Well, as if I wasn’t a blatantly honest soul – you can expect that much and more.  I really want to hold myself accountable for all the things that I let slack over the years.  My goal is to keep on top of YouTube, posting three or more videos a week – we’ll see how that turns out and just keep that portion of my life much more organized.  I want to really keep on top of my blog – posting 5x or more a week, preferably more and work at keeping the content fresh and exciting but also weave in so much more of myself that you’ll feel like we are bff’s and know me on a personal level.  I want to also check off things from my bucket list and in order to do that I must be more diligent and really make this “Stay at Home, Work From Home Mom” thing work.  I want to make even more time for family… my family – my husband and children are my everything and so this year I plan to really be “Super Mom & Wife”.

“You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance at doing what you love…” – Jim Carrey

In a week, I’ll be turning 36 years old and I’ve reached that point in my life where I don’t think I’m even old… the 30’s are the new 20’s anyway.  I’ve embraced my looks, my beauty and what I look like on the outside so now I just need to embrace my beauty on the inside and continue to feed my soul.  Will you be on this journey with me?  I hope you’ll stick around and see!

Wishing you all a wonderful 2016 and a year filled with endless blessings and happiness!

xo

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If you follow me on Snapchat – then you know that avenue has pretty much taken the place of my daily vlogs that I used to do on YouTube.  I do miss posting daily vlogs of my life and my family, but editing and craziness can sometimes take its toll and I just haven’t found the time.  If you are on Snapchat – definitely stop on by and check out my daily life as I post several times a day and share my wackiness with you.

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I have combined all or most of my snaps from the month of August on my YouTube channel to share with you.  (click here to watch directly on YouTube or embedded below)  Since snaps are deleted daily I have been downloading them to upload to YouTube in place of my vlogs.  Are you on Snapchat?  Add me by scanning the photo (taking a picture) of the thumbnail above as there is a special code in the photo that will allow you to add me directly.

Follow me on snapchat – @honeygirlk1 and share my daily life with me.  I post daily and will also be uploading a few times a month on YouTube so my future snap posts like this one will not be as long.  Have a wonderful weekend loves! xo

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Disclaimer:  I am not being paid to feature or discuss Snapchat – this is just a fun post to share with all of you!

 

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Click here to watch this week’s Thirsty Thursday episode on YouTube.

I can’t believe how fast this week went by and thankfully the boys are all off of school tomorrow due to a Statehood Day.  Today I share with you my Thirsty Thursday episode and there is a lot to talk about.  Lately I’ve been experiencing an increase in weight gain and I’m not sure what is going on.  Considering that I have changed my diet and exercise – I’m hoping that everything is okay with my body and overall health.  I’ve been in the reminiscing mood lately so I pulled up some old vlogs from the last few years and it just reminds me how important it is to document life.  I can’t believe how fast the boys have grown and I’m thankful to have those memories to fall back on.  Basically, it’s just me in my relaxed state hanging out and chit chatting so come say hi.  Video below.

Happy Thirsty Thursday!
xo

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Hello my loves and WELCOME TO 2015.  I would be lying… if I said that I was ready to start 2015 with a bang.  Let’s face it, it just about smacked me across my face silly like a baseball out of left field… hmmm… did I even explain that correctly? lol  Needless to say, I really have no choice but to welcome it with open arms now that it’s here and embrace all of its many wonders while preparing myself for a year I wasn’t ready for and saying goodbye to one I wasn’t yet wanting to let go of.  As I stop and think about it all… I’m not really sad to see 2014 go… I mean, while it had some awesome benefits – seriously, the latter of the year wasn’t on my favorite’s list – so c’est la vie.  I am proud to say that while the year offered challenges that I overcame, it also opened my eyes to things I didn’t expect to experience but because of such, I am now going into 2015 with an open mind, a different outlook on life – a positive one, and an appreciation for what I have.  I am able to close the books on 2014 (well, with exception to taxes of course) and confident that I can leave all that funky excess baggage, drama and what ever else I wasn’t happy with in the past and move forward.

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I’ve made a few goals for 2015 and while I’m not going to share them all with you, I thought I would use a few of them as a way to bring positiveness into your day and hopefully give you a bit of organization and tools for the new year.  One of the things I have been wanting to focus on in 2014, but didn’t get around to is to incorporate daily planning and organization in my life.  Don’t laugh… while it may seem like I am all put together behind the scenes, I tend to let things like my daily planning fall through the cracks.  Let’s face it – being a mother of 3 very active boys (2 of which are twins) and a wife to a busy busy hubby keeps me on my toes.  With proper organization, my hope is that I will not let things fall through the cracks… like blog posts – for example.  I get so backed up with things I feel like I NEED to do that I tend to let the things I WANT to do fall through.  After looking through my blog this year, while I am so proud of the accomplishments I have made, it seems as though the “personal” touches that made my blog “me”… was lacking.  With proper “blog management” and “goals” along with Daily Planning and even some journaling – I think that I can not only accomplish a lot more effectively – but also be efficient with my blog, daily duties and even unleash some of my creative side in my journal again and therefore giving me some outlet and release that I think I may be lacking in.  Since I know this is not an easy task, I am in the process of putting together a daily or weekly (not sure which yet) task list that will allow me to get it all in order.  I will share that printable with all of you once I have had the chance to finalize it.  But for now, writing things down – holding myself accountable and giving myself deadlines will help in getting this important goal in check.

Whew… long winded, I know.  But this is just a sneak peak of all things to come here.  I really took a backseat in how I have been wanting things to be and now I have really decided that while I can’t have control over everything in my life… some things I just have to let go of… this, I know I can control and it’s my goal to do so.

Wishing you all a wonderful and fabulous 2015.  I’m 5 days into the year and already feel refreshed, rejuvenated and ready to take it all on.  It’s going to be a fabulous year – you just wait and see!  So, your first post, a letter from the editor… is all about awesomeness in 2015.

Smooches & lots of wishes for blessings, love, happiness and prosperity!

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Happy Sunday Love bugs.  I’m stopping in to say hi a bit, but I also really want to start blogging daily (if at all possible) and I miss my Sunday Letters posts.  Yesterday I started a weird aching pain in my ear, near the cartilage that seems to force itself into my ear and half of my head.  It’s kind of an odd pressure but it has been causing me some crucial migraines today since waking up this morning.  Because of this, I got a terribly late start and I’m not too happy about that… because that means, things on my “To Do” list have really taken a back seat today.

So how is everyone doing today and how was your weekend?  There are so many things happening this week and I’m very excited for them.  While today was super hot and humid and muggy, I am looking forward to cooler weather this Fall.  Hawaii doesn’t really experience season changes and unfortunately we don’t have leaves that really change colors as Autumn approaches (that makes me sad), but you can certainly feel the difference in the breeze and chill factor.  This coming weekend my husband and I make 17 years together as a couple… our “Going Out” or “Dating” anniversary.  We don’t have anything planned because his week at work is pretty hectic, but nonetheless, I’m excited for the day.  And, Grey’s Anatomy’s new season is just days away… trust me when I say this ex Medical Surgical Tech can’t wait to watch all the drama unfold. lol

I also have been seeing all the rave for the new iPhones, lol.  I own a Samsung Galaxy Note 2 and I’ve had it now for almost two years and my phone is still going strong with no problems.  I have a lot of iPhone friends, but I think I’ll stick with the original “piece of toast” phone… and know that when it’s time to upgrade, I’ll be sticking with another Android phone, probably another Samsung.  I know that people have their favorites, but I have never been a fan of iPhone or iTunes… I’m Pro Android all the way. lol  Just figured I’d throw that in.  If you are a friend of mine that loves iphone, I have nothing against ya. lol j/k

The Annual Pumpkin Patch should be in full swing soon, so I know you’ll be seeing some photos of us there when we take the boys.  I’m excited!  The twins will be visiting the patch with their classmates for Pre-school, but every year we take them to pick our carving pumpkin.  I can’t wait to go.  🙂

Hoping you all had a wonderful weekend and wishing you a fabulous rest of your week!

xo