Hello friends! It seems like the year is absolutely flying by and my gosh I haven’t written anything here on the blog (or done anything on any of my platforms like Blog, YouTube or Podcast) in months. But, my goal is to get my ish together now. The boys are back to school and I think I can finally find the time to get with the scheduled program I had set forth to do this year. Today I’m excited to share with all of you a new Podcast episode.
I truly do enjoy making podcast episodes and segments and my goal moving forward is to post a new one each week. I have so much to talk about and so much to share. Being that I’m just a few short months (less than 4 to be exact) before I hit the big 4-0, I decided that I really need to share some of that knowledge where I can.
Today’s episode talks about my thoughts on the Limited Netflix Show, Unbelievable. I share a little about my own experience and get a little personal. I also talk about a few things that have been happening in my life lately, what I’ve been up to and what I’ve been watching.
It may take me a few tries to get in the habit of things again and writing my thoughts down, so bare with me as I get through this transition. I hope you all enjoy this podcast episode and I look forward to sharing more with you in the future.
*This post is sponsored by the PRIMPNetwork. All opinions are my own.
I would be lying if I said that 2017 has been a fabulous year for me. It’s been one that has brought forth change, sadness, death and more problems and issues than good. Having lost my Dad in June, I have been struggling to deal with all the challenges around me. Then, to top it all off, I have to deal with my monthly “woman” things. You know, that time of the month that makes us want to pull out our hair, crawl into bed and stay there for 7-10 days until it’s all over with. While I’m on an IUD and don’t experience the messy parts of my monthly “not-so-best-friend”, I still experience all the aches and pains and emotional roller coaster that comes with it. Ugh… as if that was enough, I’m bombarded with feelings that I don’t know how to deal with. Today, I wanted to share with you my 3 very easy steps to promote positivity (with the help of Pamprin’s 21 Days of Positivity) and I hope my tips will help get you through that time of the month, or any time of year you may need it.
Start your day with a little positive affirmation
I think self-affirmations are definitely important, but I change it up a bit. For years now I always start my day with a quote – reading from my favorite quote books or searching the internet for some. If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen that I use quotes consistently. Reading them aloud each day or using them as a form of inspiration will encourage positivity dramatically.
“Hey there, beautiful. Go look in the mirror. Really look at yourself. Past the insecurities, past everything you think is wrong. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Remember that!” – anonymous
Surround Yourself with people that make you happy!
Are the people in your social circle building you up or tearing you down? I believe whole-heartily that the company you keep helps to either encourage you or make things much more difficult. My family (my husband and sons) are some of my biggest supporters. Many say that we are such an elite team unit, but it’s because our ultimate goal is the success for each of us. Together, we can move mountains and their positive and loving energy feeds my soul.
Know that you are not alone, that everyone is struggling
I’ve always been the type of person that helped the little ol’ lady to cross the road or that would give my shirt to the homeless person if that’s all I could afford. My Grandma Young always instilled in me that everyone is fighting a battle and that often times, a person’s smile is hiding their sadness. After dealing with the unexpected death of my father just a few months ago, I have realized that I too hide my sorrows and pain well. I take this thought and remind myself each day that a smile, a small gesture or even a lending hand can change a person’s entire day around. Spreading positivity with encouraging words or help not only helps the recipient, but you also feel good about yourself as well.
“Never underestimate the pain of a person, because, in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are better at hiding it than others.” – Will Smith
Have you ever heard that it takes 21 Days to form a habit? I remember when I worked in Corporate America and that was instilled into our brains. Well, it really is true. If you can do something for 21 days straight, consistently – well then, you can certainly continue to do so. Pamprin invites you to 21-Days of Positivity. Repeat this 7-Day Cycle below three times. Since habits form after 3-weeks of consistent and intentional effort, you’d be amazed at what you can accomplish and how it will all come together.
Day 1 – Start today w/3 positive self-affirmations. Attach your list to your mirror. Read them aloud every day. Add to the list every day.
Day 2 – Find positive company. Who are the stars in your social circle? Who builds you up? Stick with the stars and become one.
Day 3 – Make a list of things for which you are grateful. An attitude of gratitude is a sure fire way to attract positive vibes.
Day 4 – Give yourself and others an “atta girl (boy). When you give encouraging words, you also receive them.
Day 5 – Seek, and you will find. We are responsible for choosing our perception. Look for the good, and you’re 100% guaranteed to find it.
Day 6 – Find what brings you joy and order it up every single day. Unlike fleeting pleasure, joy is consistent. We cultivate it internally.
Day 7 – Stop to smell the roses. Give one away. Be present minded enough to give and receive life’s simple gifts.
Day 8 – Hit “re-play” and make it a habit. Positive thinking begets positive action. Positive action (over and over) creates positively powerful results.
I’m excited to be working with Pamprin. Here’s the deal – we all need positivity in our lives and with the holidays approaching, it’s a must to be able to deal with everything life throws at us. It doesn’t help with the dreaded aches and pains that come with our monthly friend, so with a little help from Pamprin in thinking positive and developing positive habits, while helping with the uncomfortable pain and irritability, I think we can do it! Being a woman, after all, is a superpower, right?
Pamprin Multi-Symptom contains three active ingredients: an antihistamine to relieve irritability, a diuretic to fight against the bloating and the dreadful water weight gain and a pain reliever to help alleviate cramps. Pamprin Multi-Symptom treats all menstrual symptoms from bloating, pain and cramps and irritability. It doesn’t just treat the pain. It has the same strength as Extra Strength Tylenol PLUS the added benefits of fighting against bloating and irritability.
I encourage all of you in joining me in the 21-Days of Positivity Challenge! I know you’ll be absolutely amazed at what you can accomplish over the next 21 days. If you need a little (or a lot) of help during your time of the month, I also definitely suggest you check out Pamprin Multi-Symptom. It’s hard to remain positive when you’re dealing with bloating, cramping and pain and irritability. So, get a little help from your friend (me) and check it out.
Disclaimer: This post is sponsored by PRIMPNetwork in collaboration with Pamprin. All opinions are my own, 100% honest & unbiased. Affiliate links may be posted through out.
Before I get all personal with you guys, as I often do, I wanted to explain to all of you what #PRINCEofPEACE was all about. Beginning March 31st and through out the duration of Holy Week, you can learn all about the 8 Core Principles of PEACE by visiting the #PRINCEofPEACE website.
As a parent, I know that the reason for Easter can get lost in transition. With the need for eggs to color and dye, fun spring activities and baskets filled with treats, Easter can take on the role of any other holiday. While it is absolutely fun and the kids love it, I always grew up knowing that the commercial side of Easter was just that – fun, flowers and sweets. But, my parents instilled in us as kids that the most important part of Easter is our Savior, Jesus Christ. He is the number one reason we celebrate this day each year and because of this – while I do share in the fun of color and spring with my sons, we make sure that Jesus Christ is always in our hearts.
This year I’ve had the awesome opportunity once again to work with Mormon.org and spread the word about the campaign #PRINCEofPEACE to celebrate this Easter. The video “Prince of Peace” will be available on the site to watch and is just over 2 minutes long. It illustrates the role of Jesus Christ as the “Prince of Peace” and invites others to do the same. The video will be available in 33 languages, and the website is in 29 languages for many to enjoy.
Learn the principals of peace from the Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6). Share ways to find peace through our Savior and invite all to come unto Christ and spread the word.
As a child, I was brought up knowing that Jesus Christ is our Savior, our Almighty. I was instilled with Faith and Prayer to get me through my deepest and darkest hours and times. My mom and grandmother made sure that we knew how to say our prayers and that we took the time to say them each and every night. This, I have taught to my sons and continue to do so with them to share God’s Word with them, teach them forgiveness, compassion and gratitude. While this post may be different from the norm that you see here, I felt it was important to share this with all of you today. Sometimes we get so busy with day to day life, that we forget the importance of faith in our lives.
“History is full of conquerors, but only one of them defeated sin and death forever. Where many have tried, only Christ won lasting peace for His followers. This Easter, find that peace in your life.” – Mormon.org
While Easter is so much more than what the stores and commercials aim it to be, I think that the Principles of Peace will help you to focus on Easter and the reasons we celebrate it. This is a great opportunity for all to stop and reflect upon our own lives.
I hope you will join us in sharing the Principles of Peace and don’t forget to watch the video when it’s live.
** All images and graphics were provided to me by mormon.org. As many know, I am a believer of many faiths as they instill the word of Christ in our minds and hearts. All opinions are my own, 100% honest & unbiased. This post was sponsored by Mormon.org.
I am burdened with so many emotions right now. Honestly, I’m excited because after months (maybe even a year) of not doing a post like this – I’m proud to say that Sunday Letters is up and running at this moment. I’m excited because it seems like it’s been ages since I’ve been able to write like this. But, on the other hand, I’m filled with dread and an overwhelming sense of anxiety building up inside. My Sunday Letters posts are a way for me to get a bit personal here and a way for me to put myself out there for others to read. I miss it, but use it as a way to hold me accountable of things I set forth for myself. It’s been a long while since I’ve done a post like this – so I’m going to get real for a moment and get you all caught up.
Ugh… where do I begin? It’s already March and I have been sick so many times over the last few months that I can’t even count or begin to. I rang in the new year with the flu and I feel like it’s just all piling up on me like the plague. No matter what I do to get my health back in check, I find myself dwindling into the despair of sick and tired… literally. I have also been struggling with my weight. What the frick is up with my weight? No matter what I do health wise, it seems like I’m putting on weight versus losing no matter the countless hours and sweat I put into trying to drop the pounds. My skin has been freaking the frick out… like literally freaking out and my once good skin is now proving that it has an alter ego that is mean and evil. My skin is freaking out so bad it is worst now than it had been when I was in my teens. How is that even possible? How could this be?
“Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it…” – R.H. Sin
I think the health issues I’ve been having over the last year have been something that has literally been keeping my faith and my energy down. Over the last 6 months I’ve had every possible friend contact me and tell me “I have this new product line or product for you to try and it will make your health better, help you lose weight.” Trust when I say I have heard it all. What I really want to tell these friends is that “I’m not your get rich quick guinea pig that you can dump your new product on to make money off of.” I know, I might be a little harsh here, but it’s true. Instead of telling me… “I’m sorry that you are going through this, how can I help?” I get “hey, try this product and start using it faithfully and it will help you get better quick.” Who the frick do these people think they are talking to? I’m just over it.
Over the last 8 months, I have had more tests done to me than people have had in their lifetime. And, I might add – these are not easy on my body. Taking blood is like seeing a vampire for a neck bite. I don’t have easy veins and they are what phlebotomist call “disappearing veins” because they move or you think they are there but it’s all an illusion. Just to get a blood test done, I get poked and prodded over 5 times and then the blood suckers don’t even get enough blood to complete their testing. I had to have a CT Scan and Endoscopy done within the last 8 months as well and the CT scan required the technician to send me to an ultrasound tech to find my veins so he could start my IV, a procedure that should have taken 15 minutes took 2 hours. My Endoscopy – again, finding my vein to start my IV posed a challenge for the nurses, so after poking my arm over 8 times, they finally found a vein in my hand which wound up collapsing eventually, resulting in a huge bruise and a vein I can probably no longer use. Then, so have anesthesia rendered to put me to sleep so that I wouldn’t feel the scope down my throat, only for the medicine to not put me to sleep and I be up the entire time. These are just a small amount of issues I have with my body each day and it’s frustrating.
I have been waking up each day with a lost of drive lately. Those that know me, know that that is unusual for me. It’s outside of the norm of what many have come to expect from me and my personality. I’m just so overrun with emotions that it’s frustrating and I’m frustrated.
The other day I was chatting with a friend when she basically told me… to my face, “You just need to lose the weight and everything in your health and life will be better.” What the fuck? Don’t you think I have already tried or am trying to do that? Don’t you think that I know all too well that my weight is probably an issue? I try and stay with a program day in and day out and it hasn’t worked! So then, I ask you – why isn’t it working if you say that that is my end all, fix all? Why?
I know I have ranted and vented in this post more than what anyone has ever seen here, but just know you may be seeing more of this. I’m exhausted and more so exhausted of trying to explain myself to people who are supposed to support me, not tear me down. My goal is to become the fire that is causing havoc in my life right now and not run and fear it. So, I hope to update you all on my journey and let you know how things are going. I have a series of different appointments with doctors coming up and I’ll be writing about those here as well… so stay tuned.
Anyway – on to Sunday letters…
Dear Kevin, my husband – You have been an unwavering support system for me and I didn’t expect anything otherwise. I’m so thankful you are my rock for me to vent to and my shoulder to cry on and there is a reason why you are my best friend. I don’t know how I could have gotten through these last several months without you. Thank you for being there for me.
Dear God – Please, please give me the strength to be able to get passed this time in my life. Whatever the issue with my body that seems like it’s failing me, please heal my body of its ailments and help to give me peace. Please give me the strength to walk away from those that claim to be my friends but don’t realize they are putting me down while they are thinking that they are lifting me up. And, please give me the courage to get my health back on track and my mind back to being and thinking positively.
Dear Friends (those that I talked about in this post) whether you are family or friends, this letter is for you. I don’t despise you. I don’t hate or and I’m certainly not mad at you, but more so disappointment in your actions. You can be mad that I chose this route to discuss it, but I didn’t mention any names. I can only hope and pray that God opens your eyes to how much you have hurt me. I’m not hopeless or someone who is without hope for the future, I’m simply in a little bit of a rut at the moment. Instead of pushing me down and making me feel more like crap and putting me deeper in depression, how’s about you offer positive reinforcement to help. I don’t hate you, but can only hope that you can be a more positive influence instead of constantly tearing me down.
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”
Theodor Seuss Geisel was born on March 2, 1904 in Springfield, Massachusetts. To think that he would 110 years old today, well – that is just amazing. I’m sure he would be absolutely proud to see that his works and rhymes are still so relevant today was it was back then. By the time Dr. Seuss died in 1991, he had produced more than 60 children’s books – many of which I have read as a child and continue to read to my children till this day.
Dr. Seuss’ first children’s book – “And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street”, was published in 1937 and thereafter his popular best sellers like The Cat in the Hat and Green Eggs and Ham became household names.
“Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!”
Today is what we know in the Nation and Worldwide as Dr. Seuss Day – to not only celebrate this great writer but his birthday. I figured it would be a great time to share a quote or two of his that are some of my favorites.
Have a wonderful Thursday!
A DIY on the costume the twins’ are wearing can be found here.
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”
Whew… another week has begun and I feel like I didn’t quite finish up the tasks from last week to warrant starting a new one. Let’s face it, who ever completes their daunting daily tasks deserves an award, because my list is ever growing and it seems like there is less and less time in a day to accomplish it all. Nonetheless, I digress and try to move forward to the best of my ability.
“Significance is very different from success. Significance means that you are adding value to others lives. Once you taste significance, you won’t care about success anymore.” – John Maxwell
As I sit here at my desk working endlessly to get all of my ducks in a row for the next few days, I find myself wondering… “Am I adding value to the lives of those that read this blog?” Hmmm… don’t answer that… haha! No, but kidding aside, I really wanted to take this site back to its roots and I find myself consistently asking the same question of myself each day. Do I bring value to the table? The quick answer would be, yes… right? The long answer would be… I may not bring value to all but I certainly offer some form of value to a few, which in all honesty – is better than none at all. Right?
So, what is it that you bring to the table that adds value to those around you? Do you look at your worth by the amount of success you accomplish or do you look at your worth by how you help those around you? In this day and age, let’s face it – not many people make the time to help others anymore. When they do, it’s half assed and rushed causing you to really question their motivations as to why they lent that hand in the first place. But should it really matter how much or how little someone has helped versus the fact that they have helped at all? Let’s think about this for a second shall we? If someone lends a helping hand for you (say, you have fallen and need some assistance standing up), do you feel grateful when they lean over and help you up and then ask you if you need anymore assistance or if you’re okay. How about if they simply just helped you stand without a word and went on their merry way? Which would you prefer? Or are you like me and think that either way – the person took the time out of their day to help you regardless of small talk and that meant a lot to begin with? I find that sometimes no words is not necessarily a bad thing. In this time when so many are at fault with one another and there is so much bigotry and ignorance in the World, if a person took 30 seconds out of their day to help you in silence versus 5 minutes and took the time to have a conversation, we should be thankful that either person took the time regardless. Those few seconds mean a lot to anyone who barely has enough time in the day to accomplish their own tasks at hand – don’t you think?
Lately I think my goal in life is to be significant. It’s not about being successful (yes, we all strive for that in some way or another), but being significant means that I’m adding much more than just success to the table. When you take the time to offer value and add value to those around you – you truly are significant. Like John Maxwell said “Once you taste significance, you won’t care about success anymore.” Well John, I agree – but I think that to be significant in the world, adding value to others’ lives around you is a success too.
Wishing you all a wonderful Monday. May today and this week be filled with a plethora of inspiration to fill your bucket full.
You know, I’ve said this time and time again… but who I am today and what I have become was in part molded for me by those before me. My parents, my grandparents, family and friends who have inspired who I am as a person today. I recently was introduced to a beautiful Angel Locket by Yourself Expression and I wanted to share with you this beautiful piece that has completely won over my heart.
These beautiful Angel Lockets are the perfect way to express love or remembrance (or both). These lockets are unlike the traditional lockets you are accustomed to. They are bold, but dainty and offer gorgeous geometric shapes to compliment who you are as a person or your personal style. Each locket features filigree-like detailing and crystal accents. What makes these lockets different than your traditional ones is that instead of holding a picture inside of your loved one, each locket houses a sphere with a chime inside. Each necklace can be personalized to fit your taste by choosing the color of the sphere, making your choice something that is symbolic to you or simply your favorite shade or hue.
The chime inside is subtle, light and not distracting at all. It serves as a reminder that someone you love is thinking of you and always with you in spirit. Each locket is meant to keep love and protection around you or the person you gift it to.
Teen Entrepreneur Shelby Golguski and her brother Gordon created Yourself Expression to share things they love with others – young and old. Their Angel Lockets merge customized accessories and an on-trend look perfectly. There are various different lockets in different shapes, designs and finishes that make these so pretty and unique to your personal style.
I have the Yourself Expression Spiral Design Angel Locket in Gold with a Silver Chimer. My chain is made of stainless steel and my locket is silver plated with a copper base. My chimer is a clay-painted ball that makes a soft chime when you move. Each Angel Locket can be easily cleaned and wiped dry and you should take care in not wetting it or wearing in water. The chain is 32″ and the locket 1″ in size.
I have had this locket now for about a month and have absolutely fell in love. It reminds me of my childhood and if you know anything about me, you know that each jewelry piece I use consistently has some type of significant meaning to me. The piece is lightweight and I absolutely love the soft chime I hear when the necklace moves about it. After using this consistently over the last month, I also love the fact that it hasn’t tarnished on me or turned my skin green as well. Most jewelry pieces will do that to me after the first use if they are not real. It’s sturdy and really well made. Each locket is $20 and I look forward to picking up one or two more to add to my collection because I am absolutely in love with my locket.
They say that when a loved one passes, you will carry a piece of them in your heart always. What makes this locket so wonderful is that the little chimes that come from it are little reminders that I’m never alone. As a lover of mythical creatures like fairies and unicorns, I am reminded that there is always a little bit of pixie dust somewhere to help brighten my day and that I always have angels over my shoulder.
I think this will be a timeless piece for years to come and a great gift for yourself or a loved one. Angel Lockets are a unique gift and the perfect little treasure for anyone to have. It’s affordable, well-made and stylish. I love the concept and enjoy the product and I’m proud to share it with all you today.
What about you, do you think Angel Lockets is something that you would enjoy or a loved one would like as a gift? Have you heard or seen anything like this before?
When it comes to inspiration, sometimes we can get it from anywhere or anything. I find myself staring out a window sometimes or finding inspiration from a smile from one of my sons or husband. I also find inspiration from different books and when I least expect it – a light bulb can go off in my head and inspiration opens the doors to greatness, whatever it may be at that time. Why all this talk about inspiration you ask? Well, in the last few months I have literally been in a rut, looking for inspiration for my writing, for life, for planning and have found some of that inspiration from a book I’ve been reading. Chicken Soup for the Soul, The Joy of Less is a compilation of 101 Stories about having more by simplifying our lives. It’s a great read and I’m going to share a little about it with you today.
A collaboration with Amy Newmark & Brooke Burke-Charvet, The Joy of Less is a book that includes a variety of stories (101 and to be exact) that help you to say “no” to the things that don’t matter and say “yes” to the things that do. Let’s face it – after so many years on this earth, we evolve into people that just kind of go with the swing of things and every day life and sometimes we need a little guidance to pull us down to earth and remind us that we need to do for ourselves sometimes in order to be successful. I’m still making my way through the book, but I just had to share my thoughts on it so far with all of you. These types of books are the kind that usually have me picking it up and reading a story or two at a time when I need a little inspiration, or need to establish goals for myself.
“Go into the world and do well. But more importantly, go into the world and do good.” – Minor Myers
Chicken Soup for the Soul has been a favorite from my childhood – offering myself and my siblings an array of inspirational stories over the years. In fact, I still have a few of those books from my elementary school years on my current book shelf today. But, while they all have a special place in my heart, I think this one really resonated with who I am. It’s a book that really brings about stories on how other people simplified their life… whether it be because they learned to let go of the clutter that surrounded them (sell them, donate or just throw them out) or learn to remove the “people” clutter from their lives to really just focus on building themselves as a person. This book includes stories that help you (or me, or anyone) learn how to really get rid of the things that weigh us down – no matter what it is and find things that will uplift us emotionally, physically and in general.
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey
A few years ago, I remember cleaning out our storage unit and discarding my old yearbooks from when I was in school. I had several from elementary school and middle school I decided I would part with. Let me tell you, the job and task at hand was easier than I had thought it would be. I didn’t give it a second thought and just threw them out, making room for other things or just leaving the space void. I couldn’t understand why it was so simple for me to do. Then after reading The Joy of Less, I stopped and thought about those moments in silence. Hmmm… why was it so simple for me to move on past them and get rid of it. Well, the answer now was staring me in my face… I realized that those items didn’t feed me or who I am currently and nothing in them would benefit me now or my future. They were reminders of my childhood that I didn’t need… people who I don’t even remember now were in those, so why would I keep them around. I realized then, that while memories are wonderful things – I could always keep what I wanted to remember and throw out what wasn’t needed. It was a lot easier now that I realized why and cleaning has been fun and exciting since.
If you are looking for a little inspiration or need to know that all your purging that you’re doing is a good thing – I definitely suggest you picking up The Joy of Less from your local bookstore. There is everything in this book and stories on how some people learned how to “unplug from the world when they needed to”, “sharing and donations” and learning how to “count your blessings”. While this is a book I’ve been thumbing through and reading all about, I find that I also enjoy going back to re-read some of the stories I have already gone through. Sometimes, it’s really nice to see that others are living and going through the same struggles you are and find out how they were able to get passed it. Like I said – inspiration can be found EVERYWHERE and reading these stories reminded me that if these people who have shared their stories with us have gone through it and succeeded, well – then, I certainly can too. It’s practical and definitely reminds you that you are not the only one going through this – there are others out there too.
Fans of the New York Times bestselling book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo will find CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL: THE JOY OF LESS an inspiring read, and those looking to simplify their lives will find motivation and freedom by letting go of material possessions and focusing on what matters most in their lives.
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With school starting up again for the littles, I think this book would make great gifts to teachers, parents who have some extra time in their life to declutter and anyone else looking for a little inspiration. Chicken Soup for the Soul, The Joy of Less is sold at most book stores and online. I definitely suggest checking it out. It’s a book that will offer you so much inspiration over and over again and a great read. You don’t have to worry about this collecting dust on a shelf because I’m positive you’ll make great use out of it.
Disclaimer: The product mentioned in this post was sent for review consideration. All opinions are my own, 100% honest and unbiased, as with anything you see on this site. Affiliate links are posted through out.
The last few weeks have had me talking about relationship advice on my Thirsty Thursday episode I do each week but I have been saving some motherhood topics for today. As many know who follow my blog or YouTube channel, I am a Stay at Home / Work from Home mom and honestly, I’m proud of it. I wish each mother could experience staying at home with their children and spending the time with them watching their child or children grow. But, being a stay at home mom comes with a certain personna, or stigma I shall say, that can sometimes hit a few nerves. Today we are going to do a “Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom” segment – something I used to do a lot on my channel and blog in the past and we are going to touch base on the following subjects. These questions were emailed to me for advice and topic consideration…
” Do you think Sta at Home Moms are lazy? What do you think about what is said about Stay at Home Moms, calling them lazy or that they have an easy life and don’t do anything.”
” Do you feel you push your kids too hard to be successful? Do you think some parents can push their kids too hard to be great?”
Be sure to watch the video embedded above or click here to watch the episode directly on YouTube. Remember that this is just a chill and relaxed conversation and I’m simply stating my opinion as a person and not bashing on anyone else’s opinion on the subject.
Thanks so much for joining me on this episode of Thirsty Thursday. Don’t forget – if you are interested in submitting questions or topics for future episodes, you can email them to firstname.lastname@example.org. As a reminder, I am not a professional at all and do not get paid for my advice. All opinions are my own – my honest thoughts on the subject and I am in no way judging anyone for the choices they make or their own opinions, these are just mine.
Well, it’s obvious that I am a blogger (just call me an editor – lol), Photographer, an art lover and self proclaimed gourmet food aficionado (otherwise known as major foodie) as well as a creative brain waiting to jump out and show the world what I can do. But, most importantly – I am a Wife and Mother.
I have a husband named Kevin who has been and continues to be my rock, my strength and my biggest supporter. If you know anything about me, then you know that for years, I struggled to discover myself and who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do. Through it all, our love has stood the test of time and through our ups and downs – through sleepless nights and times when we had no money, we persevered and looked past it all. We continue to love one another, commit our hearts to each other and look forward to a lifetime of memories.
A year or so ago I was approached by a colleague that asked me a question that I never thought I would ever have to answer. But, in answering her question I realized that our world is not what we consistently hope it to be. While I constantly live in my own fairy tale, many are just longing for love. Today I share with you her question and my response.
Friend: “How can you be so in love with someone, after all these years… and talk about him as if you have a new found relationship – like teenagers? You guys act like you are newly in love.”
My answer: “How can you not? When you give your love to someone, during your wedding vows or other – don’t you commit to them with all your heart and soul? Shouldn’t love be fun and interesting? Shouldn’t you live each day for one another – be there for each other and more importantly, love like you don’t have tomorrow. It’s different when you fall in love with someone and marry them. They are your best friend, your soul mate. Your love for them can only grow more and more as time passes.”
It’s corny – I know… but it’s true! This is who I am and what I feel inside. There are times when I get so busy and wrapped up into being a wife and mother, that I often don’t pay attention to how strong my love is. Sometimes, I find myself in extreme auto-pilot, living through each day as if I were a part of a robotic colony completing each task on automatic mode. But, while those times can come more often than not, I know that I can always stop and be so thankful for where I am in life and how far it has taken me.
I also mentioned being a mother. I have three beautiful boys and while they are all their own individual selves with their own personalities, they helped to mold me into the mother I am today. Through many times of the utmost insanity, my boys have helped me to keep it all together. I’m not gonna lie, being a mother is already a challenge and topping it off with three VERY active boys is icing on the cake. My eldest (Kevin Ka’eo) is now 12 years old and is already going through that stage of being “too grown up” for his parents – yikes. And, the twins (Luke & Isaiah) are now 6 years old with an agenda each all their own. All of them keep me absolutely on my toes… between school functions, sports and just an overall lack of sleep – but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. These boys are my love bugs, they have captured my heart forever.
You see, in life – we meet new people, gain new relationships and take on many challenges. I am who I am today because of those who have inspired me to be more than I could ever imagine. I would never change any of it – Never, ever! I have a strength that many people cease to exude. It’s not that they don’t have it, but merely because they don’t realize they do.
The strength behind my soul is my family. These four people in my life that not only provide the biggest support that I could ask for as a person, but the foundation of which my life succeeds. I’m stronger because of them and for them and my soul, my heart is whole because of the love I have for them. They say that love is what makes or breaks a person – it is what develops a person into who they become and what their future will hold. If that’s the case, I think my future is bright and my soul is strong because I live a love that most people only dream of.
Wishing you all a wonderful day! Thanks for letting me pour out my heart and soul for all of you! xo
“A book is only as strong as its cover that holds and binds its pages.” – Honey
Have you ever had those days when you wake up and feel like an epiphany has completely taken over your body? The feeling overwhelms you and leaves you stunned and in awe. I swear, it seems like over the last month I have been going through this very thing several times a week. It delights me that I can go to bed in the evening and wake up the next morning with my head filled with thoughts that I simply can’t wait to get onto paper. This has been my routine lately and my mind is telling me to pay attention to the signs as they are what my heart is telling me my soul wants. In 2015, everything I did and everything I strived for had to do with self discovery, finding out who I am and what I want out of life. It was about growth, not only for myself but my family and about strength because we had to really rely on one another to ensure success or simply to just get by. This year, I want to take everything I learned from 2015 and incorporate it into my personal “Planner” so to say, that will enable success and ultimately, help me to achieve my life goals. Let’s face it, living life is an accomplishment already and last year was a challenge all its own.
So, what’s in store and what’s new for Honey? Well, first of all I really feel like over the years I lost my identity and who I truly am and last year after really accomplishing so much more than I thought I ever could personally, I realized that the little changes I made to my routine and myself created a monster. Not the scary, freaky and ugly kind, but the kind that really wasn’t satisfied with everything or anything. I should be tapping myself on the back, applauding my accomplishments and realizing that not only am a I strong, confident and beautiful woman but that I attained and superseded a plethora of goals I had and I didn’t even realize it.
“I would like to be known as an intelligent woman, a courageous woman, a loving woman, a woman who teaches by being.” – Maya Angelou
This year 2016 my mind has been made up. My goal is to engage in my thoughts and bring them all to life. Like an artist takes to his canvas or a writer to paper, my plan is to really embrace who I am as a person and use that as my strengths, not my weaknesses. One of the things I plan to do is start with making changes to my blog – I know, I know, yet again. I realized a lot about myself last year and that is that I lost my sense of personal identity on my site. I found that I was producing content that lost my personal sense of style. I love doing product reviews and I really truly enjoy trying new products and new things – but I lost the embodiment of what Honeygirl’s World really is… My World, My Life – the things I love. My site turned into a plethora of beauty (which isn’t a bad thing), but while my reviews showcased my personality, I felt that I still lost a lot of who I really am. This year I plan to incorporate more of me into the site and retro back to what it used to be when I first starting blogging. My site will not only be for reviewing my favorite products, but sharing bits and pieces of who I am and what I love. I kind of feel like all of that got lost over the years and I plan to bring it all back. I started Honeygirl’s World as a way to document my life and that is where I plan to take it once again.
So what can you expect from me? Well, as if I wasn’t a blatantly honest soul – you can expect that much and more. I really want to hold myself accountable for all the things that I let slack over the years. My goal is to keep on top of YouTube, posting three or more videos a week – we’ll see how that turns out and just keep that portion of my life much more organized. I want to really keep on top of my blog – posting 5x or more a week, preferably more and work at keeping the content fresh and exciting but also weave in so much more of myself that you’ll feel like we are bff’s and know me on a personal level. I want to also check off things from my bucket list and in order to do that I must be more diligent and really make this “Stay at Home, Work From Home Mom” thing work. I want to make even more time for family… my family – my husband and children are my everything and so this year I plan to really be “Super Mom & Wife”.
“You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance at doing what you love…” – Jim Carrey
In a week, I’ll be turning 36 years old and I’ve reached that point in my life where I don’t think I’m even old… the 30’s are the new 20’s anyway. I’ve embraced my looks, my beauty and what I look like on the outside so now I just need to embrace my beauty on the inside and continue to feed my soul. Will you be on this journey with me? I hope you’ll stick around and see!
Wishing you all a wonderful 2016 and a year filled with endless blessings and happiness!
We are just a few short days away from Mother’s Day and I can’t help buy reflect on my first Mother’s Day 11 years ago. It seems like the time has flown all too quickly and the minutes of the day just drift away like they are non-existent. Looking back on what I’ve learned and what I’ve accomplished gives me a sense of pride. I always knew I wanted to be a mom, but I never knew how rewarding it would be for me and how much I loved this job with all my heart.
My boys are growing so quickly and I have learned after becoming a mother that sometimes a little acknowledgement, peace of mind and inspiration go a really long way. I wanted to take the time to write a letter to all moms – new, soon to be and those with years of experience. This is my Mother’s Day Gift to you and I hope you enjoy!
1. As much as we wish it would, time stands still for no one and father time ticks and tocks the days and nights away. While our days may be filled with challenges, they may also be filled with laughter and delight. Take the time each day to stop and think about the things you are grateful for. I keep a gratitude journal specifically for this reason. It allows me to reflect back on other days and remember the memories that we often times soon forget. Remember that each day is filled with some form of happiness… there is always sunlight at the end of a storm.
2. It’s okay to want a little “me” time. I’m still trying to grasp the concept myself, but at least now I have accepted that wanting some time to myself does not mean that I don’t love my children. It just means that I need a break sometimes. Even if this means you are gonna vegetate in front of the computer, online window shop and have a glass of Vino… so long as it gives you a moment to yourself – hey, that’s great.
3. Don’t feel bad about wanting to capture every moment on camera. Your children will thank you later, trust me. My three sons grew up in front of a camera and I snapped away at every moment and tried to capture as many memories as possible. Even with a camera attached at the hip, I found that some of their earlier years were missed because I was caught up doing other things. It’s okay to stop and tell someone you need to take a photo, it’s okay to capture the moment for your memories. Snap away and always have a camera on hand. You don’t want to look back at the past and realize you missed something because you were too busy with something else.
4. Each parent has their own set of advice for new or soon to be mommies. It can be difficult to hear sometimes and I know that I struggled with this (still do), for a long time. If it’s something you can use in your life as a momma, then incorporate it into your own. If you can’t use, do not worry – just move on and thank the person who gave it to you. Parents sometimes forget that each child is their own individual and what might work for one child, certainly will not work for another. Do not feel obligated to make someone’s advice work for you – even if they say it will and you know it won’t.
5. This one might only pertain to moms of twinnies… but needless to say, it had to be said. Please please do not tell a mom of twins (new or otherwise), that you know exactly what they are going through because your children are just 10 months or a year or so apart. IT IS NOT THE SAME. I won’t tell you how many verbal arguments I have gotten into with parents over this. Having two children exactly the same age (twins) is not the same as having a child just a year older. By the time you have your second child (or the child born a year after), your first child is already starting to feed themselves, talking, walking, etc. It is not the same experience as two infants or children the same age. Many can argue the fact, but as a mother of twins, it was absolutely difficult for me to deal with and it was the cause of MANY arguments with other people. Does that mean that you are less than I because I am a mother of twins – OF COURSE NOT, but they are not a comparison or similarity by any means.
6. It’s okay to splurge on yourself once in a while. I’m pretty lucky in that I have a husband that consistently reminds me that it’s time to buy myself something nice, otherwise, it goes on the back burner and I completely forget. Choose out something from your wishlist and if you can swing it, get it. Ask your hubby for a Sephora Gift Card (hint hint) and pick up that new perfume or lipstick you’ve been eyeing. The choices are endless and I want moms to know that it’s okay to want to spoil yourself once in a while. It’s too often that we forget about ourselves and are always thinking about others, so it’s okay to have a little treat now and then.
7. A child’s smile can warm your heart. But, don’t let that fool you… that doesn’t mean you have to give-in and give them anything and everything they want. Sometimes structure is key and I know it has been very essential in raising my children. There are many out there that will say you are being too harsh… but don’t let them affect how your raise your child. They are your children after all – not your aunts, sisters, mothers, brother from another mother… they are your children and you set the rules.
8. Your are a strong woman! It takes more than just physical strength to handle the job of a mom. You are not only strong physically and mentally, you are courageous, creative and a complete genius. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise!
9. Before having your first child, no one ever tells you that it is a 365 day a year job, no days off, no weekends – no holidays… no pay. lol We don’t get a lunch break, no vacation time off and there is no worker’s comp either. It has made me appreciate my mom more after having children. While I knew that my mom was a very hard worker and she kept our family afloat, I truly had no idea what it was like until I stepped into this role. My mom also made it all work with less than half of what my family has financially. My siblings and I are all healthy and grown up and I am proud to have learned so much from my own mom.
10. This is an important one! After having children, sometimes we lose that sense of sexy. I know after having my boys, I gained twice my weight and I was not feeling very pretty. Gaining weight after childbirth is not the only thing that makes us not feel beautiful. Emotions are running wild, we’re tired, we don’t want to put makeup on and pajamas are our best friend. All these things add up to feeling frumpy and blue and that doesn’t even include the women who suffer from postpartum as I did. When someone pays you a compliment, believe them. For a long time my husband would tell me how beautiful I was and I thought to myself… “what’s wrong with this man? Who in the world is he looking at?” I still think that way sometimes. But when your husband tells you are your beautiful – believe him. This is not an easy concept for many and sometimes we just don’t feel beautiful. But beauty is much more than looks and a woman who can survive on two hours of sleep and no food in their belly and still be able to cook a whole meal for the house, pay the bills and make sure each child is happy and healthy – well… she has a beauty within that most only dream of having.
So, at the end of the day – we are here on this Earth because of our Mothers… well, our Dads too. Most of us are who we are because of these women and those who are mothers, well – we are strong, stealth ninjas with a heart of gold. At the end of the day, our lives are no longer our own and times can be tough, but there is one thing I know about being a mom… it is the BEST, MOST REWARDING JOB IN THE WORLD and I wouldn’t give it up for anything.
To all the mommies out there, new, soon to be and those that are experienced just know that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Wishing you all a wonderful Mother’s Day!
When I was in my 20s, I remember thinking… “drat, my 30s are just a few years away!” It’s not that I was afraid of getting older, but I always assumed that my life couldn’t get any better than 20. Boy was I wrong, because my “Dirty Thirties” came into my life and I’ve been loving and enjoying it! Now that I’m 35, I have learned so much about who I am as a person and kind of embraced my love for life, instead of always wondering about what others were thinking of me. With my knowledge of proper skin care and techniques, I am happy to say that I am not only happy in the skin I’m in, but also excited to be the age I am. However, if I had to turn back the clock – there would be some things I wish people would share and divulge with me to prep for my thirties. There are 5 Things No One Tells You About Turning 35 and while each person may have their list of things, here is mine.
How’s my no makeup selfie? (pictured above) Let me be straight up and honest with you – if you live with me, near me or know me, this is my every day look. I leave the house like this to go shopping, run errands and everything in between. Hair in a bun, bare face (with exception to my serums, moisturizer, SPF, lip balm) and a hoodie or t-shirt. Unless I really feel like dressing up or have some place special to be, besides Mascara and some form of lip product, this really is my every day all day! Five or more years ago, you couldn’t catch me leaving the house if I didn’t at least have a powder or mineral foundation on. I was not only self conscious of who I was and how I looked, I also would have constant breakouts. Which leaves me to my #1 thing no one tells you about turning 35.
1. Embrace your skin – love your skin – take care of your skin. A few years ago I wore foundation often, eye makeup, primers, etc. for years before I was diagnosed with severe Eczema in 2013 and was told by my Dermatologist that I was not taking care of my skin. “Not taking care of my skin?” I said, “How is that even possible? I use all the best products on the market today!” I didn’t realize that the cosmetics I used on my skin to hide my imperfections were causing my reactions and I was breaking out and having flare ups because of it. Now two years later, foundation free, and I’m happy to say that besides my little break outs from my monthly friend, my skin looks good and feels great. Skin care really is EVERYTHING to me and while I don’t necessarily invest in all the expensive products (I don’t find the need to sometimes), I find that as much love that I put into my skin care routine and my skin, the more love I get back from it in return.
After having three kids, two of which are twins – every part of my body went array and even five years later of a consistent battle with my weight, I can honestly say I will never get back to that size 8, 125 lbs. that I used to be. While it saddens me sometimes, I know that my size doesn’t define who I am as a person and I’m still proud of who I am. My number two thing that no one told me about being 35…
2. Society does not define who you are as a person – YOU do! I have always been the type of person that considered myself a leader, but after having my children and putting on my weight, I did feel a little insecure. Let’s face it – who doesn’t? I’m constantly working on my body and being healthy, but I’m doing it for ME, not for society, not for people who think I need to lose weight and certainly not for any other reason but to be healthy and happy. I walk or run two miles a day, five days a week and feel GREAT. I’m still a plus sized gal, with scars from my stretch marks, surgeries and thunder thighs that would stop traffic, but I feel good. The stereotype of being a plus size girl no longer bugs or bothers me.
3. Embrace Your Inner Glam Whenever and Wherever. Red lips? Smoky eyes? I think that if you are feeling a glam look that day, even if you are just rocking it out around the house, do it! I remember being told in my 20s that using makeup is all about going to the club (mind you I live in a small town and hardly anyone dressed up), but that is not the case… wear it when you feel like it. I went to the grocery store using a red lipstick and bold winged liner and was asked by the cashier if I was going somewhere special. My response: “Yeah, to pick up my son from school!” Red lips are not just for the red carpet. Like a smoky eye, red lips are used whenever and where ever you feel like it. Embrace your inner Glam Diva.
4. Bold, Colorful Makeup is Beautiful! Makeup is a form of expression, creativity and whatever else you want to call it. I posted a look a few weeks ago where I had been wearing Barbie Pink lips and neon eyeliner (pictured above – lower right) and was told that it looked great. Sometimes, while a neutral makeup look or none at all is my choice for every day – I love to pull out the bright bold lip colors and eye shadows that I love. Purple lips? Bold, colorful smoky eyes? Candy Yum Yum Neon Lips? They are okay to use and have fun with. Makeup is about self expression and art! It’s fun, funky and I like to wear it now and then.
5. Wrinkles, Gray Hair (oh – did I mention I have both of those?) and anything else which would normally define age, does not make you any less beautiful. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON – EMBRACE IT! Due to some crazy genes, I started to develop gray hair in my early twenties (if not sooner) and since I was a smoker in my late teens, early 20s (so glad I quit at 24), I developed wrinkles – but that doesn’t mean that I am any less beautiful. Sometimes we forget that beauty is at any age, any body type, any skin type, any person and we put so much pressure on ourselves to be the best. The truth is, we are all beautiful – no matter what. Our lives and futures are not determined by how we look or what we put on, but the impression we make in people’s lives and the path and legacy we leave behind.
“When I leave this World, I want to be remembered as the person who made everyone feel great about themselves and the one that gave them inspiration to persevere, not just the person who taught them how to do a smoky eye.” – Honey
My legacy would be that you don’t have to give up anything. You can be chic but have a sense of humor, you can be sexy but comfortable, you can be timeless but fresh. – Michael Kors
So what does beauty mean to you at your age? What tips would you give yourself if you could turn back the hands of time? Stop on by and check out my dear loves from The Beauty Blogger Collaboration and see what they have to say about Beauty at any age.